When I ask my clients the question, “What are the five words that best describe the man or woman you want to step into and embody?” The number one answer that stands out beyond the rest is “confident.” “Loving” comes second, with “successful,” “happy” and “compassionate” also coming in the top five.
Being shy really held me back in my business. I would get so far, making enough to pay my bills, but I wasn’t creating the kind of impact I wanted. When it came to doing the things that I needed to break through to the next level, I would shy away. There was always a little voice of doubt that stopped me. My performance levels were low, but I knew I was capable of more.
I played it safe, and that created frustration and a vicious cycle that I couldn’t seem to break. Deep down, I knew that my confidence was the issue, but I couldn’t put my finger on what I needed to do. People thought that I was confident, but there were many times when I would sneak out of events because the anxiety got to be too much. If I was asked to go on video, I would come up with an excuse not to even though I knew it would help my business.